I look at my children and see how unique each of them are, their uniqueness makes them special and makes our home full of laughter. Trust me though, it wasn’t always like this way. I used to be really good at comparison in the past, every little mistake and I couldn’t help but let it out. Sinking my kids into that chasm of low confidence.
Things turned around when I came across this powerful quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy”. It dawned on me then that I owe my children a happy home, but every time I compare them, I steal their joy. This may be shocking for you, but the truth is as parents you are either adding or subtracting from your child. Why don’t you be the former rather than the latter?
Here are some tips to help you not compare:
- Understand that everyone, yourself included, has flaws. You certainly will not like it if your hubby compares your cooking to someone else’s for instance, or your wife compares the gift you gave her to the one the neighbor gave his wife. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️. Why then do we do it to our children?
- Learn to raise the child God gave you, not the one you fantasized about having. God, as we all know, makes no mistakes. Every child given is fearfully and wonderfully made for a divine purpose.
- Focus on your child’s strength. God has given everyone special abilities, all functioning at different levels. What you need to do as a parent is to find out what that special ability is, and help nurture it.